Why I Have Decided To Go From Relaxed To Natural Hair

Let me first start off by saying that I honestly had no intention of going natural – well, at least not this time around. I’d tried many times in the past to give up the creamy crack but was very unsuccessful each time. So, when I say that going natural was the furthest thing from my mind – I mean it!

So would you believe me when I say that I haven’t relaxed my hair in nearly 9 months? Wow – that sounds weird to me but it’s true. September 2011 was the last time I had my hair relaxed.

Again – this was not by choice or at least not in the beginning.

I was somewhat forced to go natural – at least that is how I like to look at it. You see, my hairdresser (who I had just found only that summer) got married and then decided to move to Washington State.

She was the first person that I had actually trusted in a long time to do my hair.  And I had every intention of going in before she moved to get my hair done but of course, I didn’t make it. The idea of having to find someone else to do my hair was way more than I could even stand. So, I kept putting it off because I felt like I couldn’t trust anyone else.

A funny thing happened. Though after she left, I realized that I had already gone three months without a relaxer. I thought, “If I can go three months, I can go four months.” And then four months turned into five months and five months turned into six months.

Here I am eight months in and it’s not that bad – and it’s cheaper. When I was getting my hair relaxed, it was $100 a visit. That’s $600 per year to straighten some hair. :-(  Are you kidding me? Do you know what I could do with an extra $600 a year?

It just seemed to make more sense for me to give going natural another try again.

I don’t know if I was just more mentally prepared for it this time but it does seem to be a bit easier this time around. And I am enjoying it more. I’m excited to see how my hair turns out in the next few months.

I really have no intention of going back to relaxing my hair. Here are a few reasons why:

  1. Because I don’t want to have to look for someone to do it for me.
  2. It’s way to expensive.
  3. I’m a little bit lazy.

So, I guess you could say I’m turning my fear of finding a new hairdresser into a positive. I’m grateful for it. Even though, I’m finding that natural hair is a little more work – actually a lot more work – than relaxed hair, I think I’m enjoying it more. It gives me more freedom to really do what I want with my hair without burning it out.

Anyway, those are my reasons for going natural. I’d love to hear from those of you who are transitioning and going natural, or are natural yourselves. What were the reasons you went natural? Was it a forced decision or was it something that you happily chose to do? 

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I'm a newly married, 30 something year old nanny who is looking to make her big break in this world. I started my entrepreneurial journey almost 10 years ago when I graduated university because I believed that there HAD to be something better than working for others. My first business was newborn care services which I still run today. Connect with me onTwitter andFacebook


  1. I didn’t know you were going natural! Your hair has been looking great, BTW.
    I decided to go natural to find out what my real texture was and to save money. When I was on TV, the salon who did my hair received an on-air credit as compensation. That means I had NO out-of-pocket costs for my salon visits except a tip.
    Be careful not to spend too much money finding products to work on your natural hair or you’ll see your $600 savings spend pretty quickly.

  2. Natalie says:

    Thank you, JB! I am definitely a product junkie but I have put a cap on it for now. I’m using what I have in the house for now. I just have to say off of sites with product reviews on them so I don’t get in trouble..lol

  3. Jessica says:

    I went natural kind of by accident years ago and I love it. I still wear it in twists most of the time while I get comfortable with taking care of it myself and wearing it all out. Thank goodness for my stepmom who is a natural hairystylist…she is teaching me a lot!

  4. Hi,
    I enjoyed your blog and I too am natural. I have natural for 5 years now. It has been ups and downs but getting another relaxer is OUT OF THE QUESTION. I love my hair, even of the bad days. I went natural because I wanted a head full of healthy hair. I wanted a full scalp and was tired of seeing women in their 40’s and 50’s with a bald scalp because of years of relaxing! Something had to give! My hair is FULL, Thick and A freaking handful!! But it’s mine and I embrace it! Nice to meet ya lady!!

    • It’s nice to you too!! :-) I can’t wait to hit the 5 year mark. Heck, I can’t wait to hit the 1 year mark…lol. I think more black women should embrace their natural hair. But I do not how hard it is to do that. I’m glad I finally decided to accept my hair. I’m in love with it so far. I can’t keep my hands out of it. :-)

  5. Like you, I tried to go natural several times before. The first time was in high school. I read Good Hair: For Colored Who’ve Considered Weaves When the Chemicals Became Too Ruff. The book encouraged me to make the leap. That was the first time. The last time I went natural was in 2006…I think. I’ve been natural ever since and have no intentions of turning back. I just feel that black women should embrace how God made them. Growing up, I hated that popular black folk belief was that our natural hair is “bad” or ugly or inferior. How ridiculous. We’re just as beautiful as any other ethnicity. Besides that, I think natural hair looks better. I’m always trying to convert my friends. I think their relaxed hair is a poor imitation of the look they’re actually going for. Hopefully, my words don’t come off as harsh. But those are my reasons for going natural.

    • Natalie says:

      Hey Shawanda – your words are not harsh at all. I think your right. I honestly don’t remember at what age my hair was first relaxed but it suffered for the start. It just wasn’t made to be treated in that way. I see so many black women now with natural hair. It’s absolutely beautiful. My hope is to make it as long as you have with my natural hair. I’m excited to see how it turns out.

      Oh, I need to read that book you talked about. You’re actually the second person who has mentioned it to me with the last two weeks. :-)


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